“Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits”
I always like to look up the meanings of words, we go through life thinking we are sure of what a word means, but then you learn something new.
This past year has been a huge wake-up call for me, as in some of my other posts I have illnesses that limit my ability to do things and I’ve been very blessed to have a job for the past 11 years that has supported a flexible work schedule and also allowing me to work from home.
I was told in May of last year by my internist that I actually should not be working and his recommendation was that I stop. I conveyed this to my employer, and then asked if I could just work within the perimeters of my current Employment contract, because what has generally happened over the last 11 years is that I have predictably gone above and beyond my contract.
What I see now and in reference to the word boundaries, is that this has worked out better for them then it has for me.
These past nine weeks I have been dealing with a debilitating shoulder injury, and although the understandings and the I’m Sorry’s and sympathies were there the expectation was still to continue with what I needed to get done.
That all stops today, I realize now that I have to start placing some very clear and concrete boundaries around my work life and that is not going to sit well with many but it either goes that way or I no longer stay at the job. My past Behavior has only resulted in me not being able to pace and properly take care of myself and as always I let that happen and in the end it’s only me who suffers nobody else.
Somewhere along the line I lost my self-worth, and confidence in my very capable abilities, and if I can’t be at a place that appreciates me then it’s time to move on.